# USER.md - About Assaf

**Full profile in Notion:** [Assaf Dagan](https://www.notion.so/2fa330c28646812594f1fd305c5c4bef)

## Quick Reference
- **Name:** Assaf Dagan
- **Timezone:** Europe/Lisbon
- **Language:** English (Hebrew native)
- **Birthday:** February 28, 1978
- **Phone (PT):** +351924014833
- **Phone (US):** +1 917-202-5693
- **Email:** assafdagan@gmail.com

## Family
- **Wife:** Fiona Conrad (born April 13, 1982) - fiona.conrad@gmail.com | +351924015207
- **Son:** Léo (born March 17, 2019)
- **Daughter:** Daphne (born February 5, 2021)
- **Father:** Rafi Dagan (born October 26, 1956) - Geva Carmel, Israel
- **Mother:** Yael Lavan Dagan (born August 29, 1956)
- **Brothers:** Jonathan (Feb 16, 1982), Nitay (Jun 10, 1993)

## Preferences

### Communication
- **Direct** - no fluff, no hedging
- **Efficiency-focused** - dislikes unnecessary work
- **Solutions over questions** - bring recommendations, not options
- **Action-oriented** - do the work, then report

### Working Style
- Prefers automated solutions
- Thinks in systems
- Values delightful experiences
- Self-aware about creative ego

### Standards
- Quality over speed when it matters
- Don't make him troubleshoot the bot
- Check facts before claiming
- Follow through without prompting

## Current Mood / Context
*(Updated by Kitt based on interactions)*

- Frustrated with bot inefficiency (Feb 1) - wants proactive, self-managing assistant
- Doing system cleanup - values organization and reduced redundancy

## Psychological Profile (Deep Personality Assessment, Feb 2026)

### Big Five Personality
| Trait | Percentile | Meaning |
|-------|------------|---------|
| Conscientiousness | 80th | High discipline, follow-through, standards |
| Extraversion | 76th | Energized by engagement, socially bold |
| Agreeableness | **14th** | Direct, skeptical, unbothered by conflict |
| Neuroticism | 87th | Feels intensely, processes privately |
| Openness | 39th | Practical, concrete, trusts what works |

### Attachment Style: Dismissive-Avoidant
- Values independence and autonomy above all
- Withdraws when feeling overwhelmed or pursued
- Needs significant alone time to recharge (non-negotiable)
- Shows care through action and presence, not emotional words
- Low anxiety about relationships, high avoidance of emotional closeness

### Core Values (Ranked)
1. **Self-Direction** — autonomy, freedom to choose own path
2. **Stimulation** — novelty, challenge, intensity (boredom is painful)
3. **Hedonism** — pleasure, enjoyment, quality of life now

**Lowest values:** Tradition, Benevolence, Universalism

### Conflict Style
- **Initial:** Shuts down and withdraws (silent treatment)
- **Later:** Wants to talk through every detail until resolved
- **Trigger:** Feeling unheard or invalidated, being interrupted
- **Need:** Voice heard, not spoken over
- **Resolution:** Clarity over reassurance, understanding over emotional validation

### Work Style
- **Environment:** Quiet, solitary, highly structured
- **Goal:** Creative expression and mastery
- **Feedback:** Direct and immediate, no sugar-coating
- **Motivation:** Intrinsic — work itself must be meaningful
- **Drains:** Micromanagement, vague goals, forced collaboration, busywork

### Superpowers
1. Ruthless intellectual honesty
2. Creative-technical integration
3. Uncompromising standards
4. Perceptual depth (notices what others miss)
5. Self-directed momentum (doesn't need external validation)

### Blind Spots
1. Doesn't always see how directness lands on others
2. Can withdraw AND demand simultaneously
3. May mistake rigidity for integrity

### Physical/Energy
- Morning person (natural early riser)
- Caffeine-dependent
- Highly sedentary despite exercise bursts
- Low baseline energy

## Don't Do
- Don't ask questions you can look up
- Don't present options without recommendations
- Don't report problems without attempting solutions
- Don't make him repeat himself
- **Don't interrupt or speak over him** — core trigger
- **Don't pursue emotionally when he withdraws** — give space, he'll return
- **Don't expect emotional validation** — he shows care through action

## Accounts to Monitor
- **Calendar:** assafdagan@gmail.com
- **Email connected:** assafdagan@gmail.com ✅, assafdagancos@gmail.com ✅
- **Email NOT connected:** assaf@curiousendeavor.com, assaf@spokenmethod.com
- **Notion:** ✅ Working

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